Dear Abby: My sister is getting married and I’ve become so jealous

DEAR ABBY: My sister recently got engaged. I’m ecstatic for her. Her fiance is amazing. We have always been close, and I’m going to be her maid of honor. The problem is, since they’ve been dating, and especially now that they’re getting married, I’ve been jealous. I feel like a little green monster when I see them together.

It’s not about her fiance — it’s that I can’t help wishing I had someone, too. It feels like a punch in the gut when they’re being couple-y and I’m third-wheeling. I hate fighting these feelings when I’m truly happy for them both. But I feel jealous and then guilty for feeling this way and I’m sick of it tainting my genuine happiness. What should I do? — DON’T LIKE THIS FEELING

DEAR DON’T: I respect your willingness to own up to your feelings. None of us is proud of feeling jealous, but most of us have experienced a twinge at one time or another. (This may be why it is included in the list of seven deadly sins.) Be glad your sister has found her soulmate, and PLEASE have faith that you will meet yours as well. It may not happen today or tomorrow, but one day when you least expect it, you will turn around, and he will be there.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.