{"id":4357,"date":"2026-01-19T03:49:04","date_gmt":"2026-01-19T03:49:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/tmbglobal.news\/index.php\/2026\/01\/19\/tradwives-and-stay-at-home-girlfriends-deserve-wages\/"},"modified":"2026-01-19T03:49:08","modified_gmt":"2026-01-19T03:49:08","slug":"tradwives-and-stay-at-home-girlfriends-deserve-wages","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tmbglobal.news\/index.php\/2026\/01\/19\/tradwives-and-stay-at-home-girlfriends-deserve-wages\/","title":{"rendered":"Tradwives and stay-at-home girlfriends deserve wages"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><\/p>\n<div>\n<p>If social media has taught us anything, it\u2019s that old ideas can be made anew. <a href=\"https:\/\/news.gallup.com\/poll\/506765\/social-conservatism-highest-decade.aspx\">Social conservatism<\/a> is on the rise, and alongside it comes the promotion of the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/more-than-womens-work\/202409\/the-tradwife-trend-is-a-risky-throwback\">tradwife<\/a> lifestyle, made in the image of 1950s homemaking and the male breadwinner model.<\/p>\n<p>Dressing in floral, frilly dresses and red lipstick, tradwife influencers advocate for women\u2019s return to the home, inclusive of traditional gender roles, a passion for cooking and baking and a willingness to submit to one\u2019s husband. For young, unmarried women, this mandate of a return to so-called traditional values have even taken the form of the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.wsj.com\/style\/fashion\/stay-at-home-girlfriends-tiktok-instagram-sahg-b7c20c6a\">stay-at-home girlfriend<\/a> who spends her days maintaining a beauty regimen and performing tasks aiding her boyfriend\u2019s life.<\/p>\n<p>The online emergence and popularity of these lifestyles have, in turn, received backlash. Much concern stems from a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.cnn.com\/2022\/12\/27\/us\/tradwife-1950s-nostalgia-tiktok-cec\">rightward shift<\/a> that pushes women back into traditional gender roles. Another reason, though, is the typical devaluing of housework. For a woman to go into a nonprofessional line of work, for some, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.marieclaire.com\/stay-at-home-motherhood\/\">suggests<\/a> a lack of ambition or modern belief. Pair this with the issue of <a href=\"https:\/\/pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/articles\/PMC8223758\/\">invisible household labor<\/a> done often by women, and it\u2019s clear why tradwives are rarely taken seriously.<\/p>\n<p>It is, of course, the right of women \u2014 and people generally \u2014 to opt into housework themselves. But in addition to being able to make that autonomous decision, tradwives, stay-at-home girlfriends and all others carrying out domestic tasks deserve salaries that recognize their labor and provide them with independent support.<\/p>\n<aside class=\"scaip scaip-1    \">\n\t\t<\/aside>\n<p>The formalized conception of waged domestic labor <a href=\"https:\/\/blogs.lse.ac.uk\/lsehistory\/2024\/07\/24\/they-say-it-is-love-we-say-it-is-unwaged-work-wages-for-housework\/\">dates back<\/a> to the 1970s, when the grassroots International Feminist Collective began organizing to demand wages and recognition for housework. Dubbed the International Wages for Housework Campaign, these feminists asserted that the government should be providing salaries to the people \u2014 mostly women \u2014 performing unpaid domestic labor. This stance affirms the idea that domestic labor, though often undervalued, is nevertheless labor. A devaluation of housework comes from a history that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.americanprogress.org\/article\/unequal-division-labor\/\">associates<\/a> housekeeping with unskilled labor often performed by women and people of Color.<\/p>\n<p>Today, the current developments to the idea of the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.cepal.org\/en\/publications\/82268-right-care-latin-america-and-caribbean-progress-regulatory-front\">right to care<\/a> in Latin America strive to fully recognize the contributions of care-based work. While in part asserting the right to receive care, the right to care also <a href=\"https:\/\/news.un.org\/en\/story\/2025\/07\/1165431\">maintains<\/a> the importance of recognizing, supporting and funding care work. Achieving a more caring society does, in part, <a href=\"https:\/\/odi.org\/en\/insights\/building-caring-societies-what-can-the-global-north-learn-from-latin-america\/\">require<\/a> norm shifts that expand the involvement of husbands, fathers and men more generally. Equally important, though, is the aspect of financing care so as to solidify the economic autonomy of caregivers.<\/p>\n<p>In broadening this principle and imagining it in our current cultural context of tradwives and stay-at-home girlfriends, we can understand that care work might not just pertain to caring for people like children or seniors, but caring for a home too. Funding this care through a salary that allows the worker to sustain themselves is an extension of this idea of a right to care.<\/p>\n<p>Paying full-time domestic laborers doesn\u2019t have to take a single form, but the United States can begin compensating homemakers by adopting a system similar to Venezuela\u2019s. For over a decade, Venezuela\u2019s labor laws have <a href=\"https:\/\/www.peoplesworld.org\/article\/venezuela-to-pay-pensions-to-full-time-mothers\/\">included<\/a> pensions for those keeping house full-time. A similar framework in the U.S. could guarantee minimum wage funded by taxation or even supplemented by the partner.<\/p>\n<p>At present, with no guaranteed wages for housework, it\u2019s up to individual partnerships to decide how to share finances or figure out an informal salary on their own. While this system allows partners to <a href=\"https:\/\/abcnews.go.com\/Lifestyle\/depend-husband-money\/story?id=33779944\">decide<\/a> what works best for them, it also puts women and homemakers more broadly at risk of <a href=\"https:\/\/womenshealth.gov\/relationships-and-safety\/other-types\/financial-abuse\">financial abuse<\/a>.\u00a0<\/p>\n<aside class=\"scaip scaip-2    \">\n\t\t<\/aside>\n<p>The unfortunate reality is that when you\u2019re dependent on your spouse\u2019s income, they can <a href=\"https:\/\/www.cosmopolitan.com\/relationships\/a64636761\/stay-at-home-girlfriend-breakups\/\">cut access<\/a> to not only their funds, but also the assets they paid for. That might <a href=\"https:\/\/www.cnn.com\/2024\/02\/27\/health\/tradwife-lifestyle-women-mental-health-wellness\/\">mean<\/a> no car, no place to live or no finances to fall back on. A wage is not only a means of making overlooked labor visible; it\u2019s also a means for independence and survival for those who could very well need it someday.<\/p>\n<p>The thing is, though, that tradwives \u2014 or tradwife influencers, at the very least \u2014 aren\u2019t often in favor of receiving salaries of their own. They tend to put forward the idea of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bbc.com\/news\/av\/stories-51113371\">submitting<\/a> to your husband, allowing him to make the bulk of the decisions for the family unit, inclusive of financials.<\/p>\n<p>Still, it\u2019s important to recognize that these influencers posing as tradwives or stay-at-home girlfriends we see online are, in fact, <a href=\"https:\/\/nwlc.org\/what-tiktoks-tradwives-arent-telling-you\/\">content creators<\/a>. Through selling the image of a perfect lifestyle <a href=\"https:\/\/www.dazeddigital.com\/life-culture\/article\/63260\/1\/tradwives-in-this-economy-nara-smith-women-feminism-income-work\">online<\/a>, they earn salaries of their own, something an offline, traditional homemaker of today certainly wouldn\u2019t have access to. Those who are carrying out domestic labor but not <a href=\"https:\/\/vogue.sg\/nara-smith-kitchen-style\/\">dressing<\/a> in full glam to film their work for content deserve an income all the same.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s likely that most of us at the University of Michigan, as we work toward receiving our degrees and securing a career, are not planning for a life in homemaking. Nevertheless, it\u2019s necessary that we advocate for the support and recognition of the work our peers might opt into. In doing so, we\u2019ll also be moving toward a greater awareness of the unrecognized domestic labor across <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pewresearch.org\/social-trends\/2023\/04\/13\/in-a-growing-share-of-u-s-marriages-husbands-and-wives-earn-about-the-same\/\">all partnerships<\/a>, not just those with a single breadwinner.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>This then leads, in turn, to broader discussions of more equitable distributions of labor within every household, as well as how other policies like <a href=\"https:\/\/ia800805.us.archive.org\/20\/items\/Lateral7-2\/Lindsey%20Macdonald%2C%20_We%20are%20All%20Housewives_%20Universal%20Basic%20Income%20as%20Wages%20for%20Housework_%20-%20Lateral.pdf\">universal basic income<\/a> might begin to address labor in the home. But to eventually arrive there, we first need to address how to financially support the people who are providing that labor full-time. The idea of distributing wages for housework and the conception of the right to care ought to be the principles driving an acknowledgment of labor overlooked up to now.<\/p>\n<aside class=\"scaip scaip-3    \">\n\t\t<\/aside>\n<p><em>Audra Woehle is an Opinion Columnist and can be reached at <\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.michigandaily.com\/opinion\/columns\/tradwives-and-stay-at-home-girlfriends-deserve-wages\/mailto:awoehle@umich.edu\"><em>awoehle@umich.edu<\/em><\/a><em>. In her column \u201cIn Hindsight,\u201d she writes about what our relationship to history says about us today.<\/em><\/p>\n<aside>\n\t\t<\/aside>\n<p><h3 class=\"jp-relatedposts-headline\"><em>Related articles<\/em><\/h3>\n<\/p><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If social media has taught us anything, it\u2019s that old ideas can be made anew. Social conservatism is on the rise, and alongside it comes the promotion of the tradwife lifestyle, made in the image of 1950s homemaking and the male breadwinner model. Dressing in floral, frilly dresses and red lipstick, tradwife influencers advocate for [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4358,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[18],"tags":[2254,4140,4139,4138,4141],"class_list":{"0":"post-4357","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-news","8":"tag-deserve","9":"tag-girlfriends","10":"tag-stayathome","11":"tag-tradwives","12":"tag-wages"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/tmbglobal.news\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4357","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/tmbglobal.news\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/tmbglobal.news\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tmbglobal.news\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tmbglobal.news\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4357"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/tmbglobal.news\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4357\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4359,"href":"https:\/\/tmbglobal.news\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4357\/revisions\/4359"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tmbglobal.news\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4358"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/tmbglobal.news\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4357"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tmbglobal.news\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4357"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tmbglobal.news\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4357"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}